Being Someone I Can Relate To


These days women are portrayed as heroes running through woods, flashing swords, guns or light sabers, showing men how to be accurate shots, how to be brave. These are flashy, slender — always slender — heroes — but not women I can relate to.
When American Book Award winner Shann Ray skyped into the Writers As Readers book club, he said an impetus for writing American Copper was his “love for his grandma, wife, daughter. Their fierceness.”

In the book, Evelyn’s powerful dad shapes her strength, confidence and ability to love but won’t let go. She also grieves with a sorrow that throttles her. She kicks clear of both. She doesn’t hate her father, even though, as a copper baron, he tries to possess everything. She chooses to love a man.

Sharon wondered how forgiveness showed up in American Copper when Ray emphasizes it in his TED talk and his life’s work. “I embedded things in quiet ways throughout the novel. Think of Evelyn as a soul bearing moral presence. She, like many of the women I know, are never going to decide for evil against an intimate connection to the wilderness. They will never decide against intimacy,” he says.

I sat up. I want to be like that: a woman who chooses intimacy over a hard heart, who finds it impossible to choose evil. I want to stand up.

I’m Katie Andraski, and this is my perspective.

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Click here for the Amazon page for American Copper.

Click here for Shann Ray’s website.



  • Lynn D. Morrissey says:

    It sounds like a wonderful book, Katie, and a wonderful way to be. Intimacy. It is a word that breathes richness, shared secrets and eternal truths, deep knowing and caring, authenticity. I think you are that way, from all I read of your writing and comments. Keep baring your soul. It’s the only way to be true to the way God made you. Thank you for sharing.

    • katiewilda says:

      Lynn, it is a wonderful book. Do check out his TED talk. Shann Ray has also written about forgiveness in a time of violence (or something like that). Thank you for these kind words that amount to a blessing. What a lovely thing to say. Thank you for coming by. Love back.

  • Thanks for the recommendation Katie! I’ll look into it.