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Easter Week Reflections

This past Good Friday we learned about how Jesus took up the cross. The older I get, the more mysterious it has become. When I was young, soaked in fundamentalist preaching, I knew that if I was the only one who sinned, Jesus would have died for me. I cried about this often. But now, with new descriptions of how Jesus died, where his death was not so much his taking God’s wrath as it was his rescuing us from sin and death, it is even more a mystery to me. I can only lean in and trust that what Jesus says about no one being taken from His hand is a true promise.

When Jesus first said, “Take up your cross, and follow me,” it had to be terrifying to the people who heard those words because they saw, heard, smelled those terrible executions. “Follow me” for many who knew Him, meant violent, slow death. But they weren’t ready to face death until they saw Jesus risen. They weren’t ready until the Holy Spirit filled them full to the brim, and years practicing their faith, seeing God’s work, spooled by.

During Jesus’ trial, Peter feared a servant girl’s question, saying he didn’t know Jesus. The other disciples were no shows, except for John, who stood by Mary and the other women. Yet they followed Jesus. They loved Him. Loved him.

Nowadays the cross hangs around our neck. Protestants wear empty ones. Catholics and more liturgical types wear crucifixes to remind them of this suffering. Sometimes movies like Passion of the Christ bring it home. Though I for one, have averted my eyes to the violence.

When I hear of Christians being killed for following Jesus, I wonder if I would be so brave. I take comfort in Jesus’ sorrow and terror in the garden, (Did you know Gethsemane means Olive Press?) when he sprawled on the ground crying, “Father take this cup from me, not my will but yours be done.” So when my time comes I can cry out to God, my fears and sorrows and aversion to obedience–not my will but yours be done.

The confessions spoken in God’s voice, helped. Things I’ve been thinking about how easily we turn away from following God. And God’s heart cry, “O my people, O my church, what have I done to you or in what I have I offended you? Answer me. I led you forth from the land of Egypt and delivered you by the waters of baptism, but you have prepared a cross for your savior.”

And we could only reply: “Holy God, Holy and Mighty, Holy and Immortal, Have mercy on us.”

It’s easy to wonder how the children of Israel could have held an orgy at the foot of Sinai while God was giving Moses the law. It’s easy to think we are superior. But we are just as guilty of smelting our gold earrings and forming a golden calf.

My guilt is petty, but still. I’m hooked to Diet Coke, because I got tired of the craving it, and reaching for honey mustard pretzels to solve the craving. Everyone, even my neurologist, say it’s not good for you. It’s like drinking poison. I feel a low grade tired since starting back drinking it. Is it really worth that kind of chronic tired?

I have become a political junky. I can’t take my eyes off what’s going on in the country–how we seem to be careening towards self destruction. I wonder why, though Rabbi Sacks has quoted God warning the children of Israel not to forget Him when they come into the richness of the land flowing with milk and honey. These years of retirement have been a deep rest, but also a challenge to offer thanks for the blessings, to be willing to share the goodness.

I’m helpless against the sweetness in my brain that leads me to the easy scrolling through Facebook or watching reality shows on TV. We are so washed in our self indulgent culture, that taking up our cross, is even more foreign. If I can’t give up my Diet Coke or TV…then how could I stand in that day?

And then there’s the whole decluttering thing, the words Jesus said to the rich young ruler about selling everything he has and following Him. I think of the rich man who did nothing for the homeless man at his gate, except let his dogs lick his sores and let the man eat his garbage. The rich man ends up in hell, a place so dry a drop of water would be worth something. Really Jesus?

I look at my dress pants, clothes I was going to give away, and thought why? I can use them someday. It might be good to dress better than jeans for church to give God respect. Dennis Prager says in his commentary on Exodus that the children of Israel needed to clean up as God gave them the law. He said we have lost something in our informal dress, so my excuse to keep the pants. It’s all so much, this decluttering, when I have life to live now, when it clutters my brain and I am so overwhelmed nothing gets done.

My right leg has been nagged by nerve pain several years. At first I thought it was MS but the MS doc said nope, it was caused by fat. The nerve pain comes and goes and has been tolerable until this winter, when I woke crying out because my thigh felt like someone laid kindling against it. In order to see if there are any pinched nerves I was assigned an MRI. My spine doctor is compassionate because she scheduled a consult right afterwards.

It takes all I have as far as concentration to get into one of those things. The closed space terrifies me because I feel like I’m practicing for my grave. I found this about myself years ago when I shared space with Bruce in my Toyota Four Runner. I can’t even look at the MRI tube. My head was kept still by padding. My ears were plugged. My knees lifted up. And there was no music to focus on with this one. I’d have to go all the way in. My whole body buried in that thing. Alive.

The machine sat there humming, sounding like a tugboat making her way up Lake Champlain. The thing was mechanically alive.

The technician was very kind, saying he hated them too, saying I didn’t have to do it, but open MRI’s can be worse. I laid down on the table. “I’d have to go all the way in?” “Your head would nearly be outside on the other end. You could wear a washcloth. But you don’t have to do it. No you don’t. I won’t force you.” But Doc’s waiting. I laid down.

Then I remembered I’d brought an aromatherapy roll-on for calm. I asked to get it. I rolled it on my wrist and smelled the pine forest I sometimes ride Tessie through, when it’s hot, the needles long and brown under foot. The branches humming with wind.

“Okay let’s do it.” I had the scent to focus on. I laid back down. Put the wash cloth on my face and told him to work fast. I held the rubber bulb that could free me if I panicked. I breathed, my heart racing partly because I drank too much Diet Coke. I shut my eyes, the cloth between me and the tube. And listened to the magnets dance and chatter.

I felt like I was in deep space hearing the music of the spheres, the sound of cosmic rays wheeling through space that might not be the void we think it is, but something trembling with energy, with spirit. I breathed deep. The nerves in my leg popped and fizzed. The technician would speak between each dance saying how many minutes the next one would take. I’d take a deep breath and listen to the jack hammers, to the dance of men breaking concrete.

The very first time I did an MRI I saw Morgen in front, harnessed, driving out the road, at sunset. This was the farthest from what I imagined could happen. The vision simply welled up. And it came true. I didn’t ask it to come true, but it did, almost on its own.

But in this MRI I just imagined space and thought of C.S. Lewis’ character Ransom who traveled through space in a box, closed in, not unlike this machine. I wept under that washcloth over my failures as a friend. I wept for my fear my friend would not call me when her schedule freed up. It has happened before–my waiting for my friend to call me and she never dead and years scrolled by and grief over the loss. I am comfortable with weeping. I know who I am. Quiet life is not easy when you’ve cried as much as I have because my tears seemed to bring me to God. Our pastor preached that Luther called such thoughts a turning in on ourselves–what Jesus came to save us from. Perhaps giving thanks for this quiet life, when you are used to sorrows, is a kind of taking up my cross.

My doc put my pictures up on the computer. I tell you I looked like country ribs–the meat around my spine and fat, all in black and white. She showed me the splices along my vertebrae, how there was a little narrowing of the nerve root, but not enough to cause the tingling. It’s good news my back is in good shape but the nerve tingling seems to be getting worse. I woke up again like burning kindling was laid against my thigh. Sometimes it’s hard to sleep for the “running mice” in my leg. My leg aches–with soreness moving from my calf to my ankles to my shins to my thigh. It used to trouble me when I stood or was stretched out flat, now it feels like mice are running up and down it when I’m sitting. My doctor and I are beginning to suspect it’s what the MS doc said, that it’s from fat pushing against the nerve. It’s a condition pregnant ladies get as well. I just want to be sure there is no tumor inside pushing against the nerve.

The next step will be to test the nerves to see whether there is damage to them or not. Then there has been talk of a nerve block.

On Holy Saturday we read through the Biblical story of God’s interaction with us–the creation and flood and Ezekial’s valley of dry bones. When it came time for Jesus to rise, Pastor Heine and Pastor Jung took off their black robes and stoles and put on their white robes with gold. They placed the host on the table. And took the black and red streamers off the cross, replacing them with yellow and orange and white streamers. They did what we are told to do. They put off the clothes of death and sin and put on the white linen of the saints. They put on Christ. I wept. We sang the ancient words of Job, “I know my redeemer lives” as we walked forward to take Christ’s body and blood in our hands and mouths, and bodies. If you’d like to hear the messages from Holy Week, click here.

We are freed from death because Jesus went ahead of us through death. He harrowed hell. He brought God into the place where we were separated from him. He pulled Adam and Eve out of the pit. And when he died, when he cried, “It is finished” the veil in the temple was torn and godly people were raised and walked in the city.

On Facebook someone published a meme, “Eat, drink, and be merry because yesterday, we were dead.”

And the friends I wept for? They stepped forward, called me instead of me calling them, a quiet, kind reassurance that I belong to some people.







  • Mark says:

    The Bible says that Peter cursed when he denied Jesus the third time.

    Think of every foul and obscene word that’s ever come from your mouth or at least that you’ve thought if you’re too good to curse. That’s what came out of Peter’s mouth in his terror-filled moments when people accused him of knowing Jesus. So when obscenities escape my lips . . . or just remain in my head because I’m too good of a Christian to use such language . . . then I deny knowing Jesus just like Peter did.

    And I’ll bet I could enjoy an orgy at the base of Mt. Sinai if everyone else was doing it and I got bored waiting for Moses and God to show up. “Where the hell are they anyway? We’re all gonna die soon stranded out here in the wilderness so far from home. We might as well have some fun and excitement before we do . . . and who know if some other god might not come and save us?”

    The cross. The grave. Oh hell yeah, we deserve THAT! But Resurrection?


    • katiewilda says:

      Oh Mark, so good to hear your voice. That is true about Peter and I hadn’t thought of Peter’s cursing. I am so not good enough to not curse. I dropped the F bomb the other day and shocked a friend who asked if I was all right. I need to be careful. I think I learned it from our friend Frank…that those words can be a voice for something. I hear you about all the ways we deny we know Jesus.

      Me too on the orgy part. I’ve been reading Dennis Prager’s commentary on Exodus and think how we’re not so different than the children of Israel though we like to think we are. The letters to the seven churches in Revelation is kind of evidence of that. We get caught up in in the world political and erotic system. At least that’s what some of those letters say.

      Yes and again yes on our deserving the cross, the grave, but oh my He conquered death; He harrowed hell. We can “Eat, drink, and be merry, because yesterday we were dead.” At any rate so good to hear from you. Peace of the Lord be with you always.

      • Mark says:

        “Peace of the Lord” be with me? Thank so much, Katie, for that closing thought or wish or blessing. And He IS with me always and, yet, I’m too often not with Him . . . which puts me in mind of a song by Jason Gray.

        I know it has nothing to do with your description of those crypt-like MRI machines or the ravages of time upon our bodies, but I keyed in on your descriptions of your soul more than your writing about your failing body.

        “The Golden Boy & The Prodigal” is an Easter song, only not the usual kind, but I so identify with it. I think you might too. I’ll let the artist set it up before he plays it for you. Give a listen and then tell me what you think.

        • katiewilda says:

          Oh gosh yes–the peace of the Lord be with you–gosh yes. Thank you for keying into my descriptions of my soul. Thank you for sharing “The Golden Boy and the Prodigal”. I loved that song–how he says the perfect version is really the straw man. I love how he challenges himself about how Jesus loves the prodigal, how dare we not love him/her as well. Thank you for sharing.

          • Mark says:

            I’m glad you loved Jason’s song, Katie. I so much identify with it even though I wish that I didn’t. I was startled to hear him say, “I hate myself,” because for some stupid reason I figured that I was the only person who said such horrible things like, “I hate myself.” I wish that I was, but I guess that I’m not. My sins make me say that about myself, but then I confess that sin too, and so you see why I beg mercy and always will until I see the Face of Mercy. The really wicked thing is that I don’t hate myself over my sins out of a love for God but out of a most damnable selfish pride. Although I won’t ever stop repenting my sin, I came to realize some time ago that without sin in my life, I’d most likely be a real monster, maybe even a devil, so full of myself and contemptuous of others who still sin. That’s sick, huh? Satanic actually. What’s most wonderful about the Resurrection to me is not so much coming alive again, but coming alive without sin anymore and without the ability to sin evermore. OH GLORY!

          • katiewilda says:

            I hear you on the self hatred thing. Me too. I love your statement: I beg mercy and always will until I see the Face of Mercy. Yes and again yes. There’s a line in “When Peace Like a River” that says, “My sin, oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!My sin, not in part but the whole,Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!” It is the longing of my soul, and also to see Him face to face. Isn’t it amazing how God can redeem even our sin, how He stopped you from being so full of yourself and full of contempt for others? (I feel contempt in general is the enemy tearing our country apart.) At any rate so good to hear your voice. Peace of the Lord be with you and Karen always.

  • Lynn D. Morrissey says:

    A gorgeous, honest, soulful transparent pouring forth, kind of like your soul’s stream of consciousness, kind of like a personal, private journal entry made public. I’m so sorry for all this wretched pain, first and foremost, and I hope the docs are able to help. My dear mother is suffering that kind of burning pain in her lower extremities, and the doc says she has spinal stenosis, which pinches the nerves. Anyway, I’m so sorry, and when I pray for her pain, can pray for yours, for solutions for you both. As we’ve shared, I’m struggling w/ the clutter, and with a sense of this purposeless scrolling and political addictions. I know for me, Katie, it needs to stop. Struggling. Sending love, prayers, and resurrection hope, as we lean on Jesus and ask Him to help us die to what is lifeless anyway, and rise up in His resurrection power in victory. W/ Him all things truly are possible, because He lives!

    • katiewilda says:

      Thank you so much Lynn.I was a little afraid of the vulnerability but thought what the heck. I’m so sorry to hear about your mother’s burning pain in her lower extremities. That spinal stenosis is awful. Can they do surgery for her? My doc didn’t see anything like that for me. I am looking forward to further testing and figuring out what this is and whether the leg pain, which isn’t nerve pain is related or not. Thank you for praying for me.

      Yeah I hear you on the purposeless scrolling and political addiction. I wonder though if God will someday use it to help us to build bridges, to stand up to our contempt culture. I’m probably going come around and work on the clutter as I can. I have a lot of paper to throw away. And clothes to go through. Yesterday’s scripture talked about John saying if you have an extra cloak, give it away. And our Bible class talked about if you are filled with the spirit, evidence of that is generosity, especially to the poor. Let’s pray for each other on these things? And check in weekly? I know prayer can make a huge difference. I too need to cut back on the internet reading. I don’t want to hurt people’s feelings if I unsubscribe…Thank you so much for your heartfelt response and for reading this.

  • Yvonne Quirk says:

    Just beautiful, Katie. Your vulnerability shows your intimacy with Jesus – and your longing to know Him more. Thank you – and keep writing!

    • katiewilda says:

      Thank you so much Yvonne for this blessing. I was a little afraid of the vulnerability…I do want to know Him more, be His “hands and feet and voice” in the world. And thank you for the blessing to keep writing, which right now is a word–this is the way, walk in it, which I’ve needed. Hugs to you.

    • Lynn D. Morrissey says:

      Thanks for your empathy with Mother, Katie. I prayed for you on my walk (and for Fern, too 🙂 ). Praying God will alleviate pain for you both–it colors all you do. You know I do try to build bridges, and sadly, sometimes I get in trouble for it, when people are so bent upon a political position. Im not monolithic, and I think it surprises some of my Xn friends. The point is, my loyalty is (and should be!) to THE Person, Jesus, and not to a political platform. But I will keep trying to reach out individually when I can. But I”m learning that no matter how innocent a post I think I am making, attempting to do good (when it comes to political/moral situations), people interpret my meaning through *their* lens, assigning meaning I never attempted. Then they get angry and condemnatory. In reading the Proberbs lately, I’m thinking it’s foolish to argue. I get the clutter. Will cont to pray, and need to email about that. Just a little inundated at the moment w/ chorus fundraiser and our daughter’s graduation activities and job serach. 🙂 But I will reach out.
      Love you,
      PS no, no surgery for mother. she is just too old and this is risky surgery. Alas.

      • katiewilda says:

        Lynn I’m keeping you in my prayers for unhooking from the screens and for decluttering because I so hear you. I am pretty sure this leg thing is from fat pressing on the nerve because when I wear tight pants my leg hurts. It does seem to be getting better slowly, with more activity and rest in between. Thank you for your prayers on that. I hear you on people getting bent out of shape when we try to be a bridge person. I’m not sure that Facebook is the venue for these conversations, or at least it can be difficult. I very much agree that our loyalty is to Christ. I keep thinking of being all things to all people that I might win some as Paul said. And it is very true that people’s perceptions color how they receive what we have to say. Arthur Brooks’ Love Your Enemies is a wonderful book about having these kinds of conversations. It’s practical and readable. Well, enjoy your daughter’s graduation activities. What fun. And I hope she gets a job soon.

        Thank you so much for reading this and for being such an encourager. Love you back, Katie

  • Jules says:

    This is beautiful. Thanks for sharing here and linking on FB. You have a deep relationship with Him and knowledge to write like this. (I have a terrible MRI story that I won’t be share! I’m glad you did well. )

    • katiewilda says:

      Jules, thank you. Thank you for blessing me and my walk with the Lord.That’s very kind. While I respect your not wanting to share your MRI story, I’d sure love to hear it one day!